I heard an interesting speech today. The speaker said we should live life with no regrets–the woulda-coulda-shoulda’s that we all seem to carry around with us. Wait, you mean we all carry around woulda-coulda-shouldas? I will hereby abbreviate this to wcs. What are regrets? A
You raise your kids to love learning, to love exploration, to have good manners and good morals, and so do your twins. After your 1st child, you say to yourself, “Self? Next time we do it the OTHER way and the child will turn out better and you will get the Parent of the Decade award.” Your twins raise their child the way you wished you would have, and they say to themselves, “Self? Next time we do it the OTHER way and the child will turn out better and you will get the Parent of the Decade award.” Huh? Why didn’t 1 child turn out perfect and the other one flawed? Both sets of parents have regrets about things they did and flaws they had as parents, and the children grew up to be their own selves rather than fit the mold we made for them in their infancy. How can you live with no regrets? Even if you choose to do nothing, you’ve made a choice. In human existence, you are bombarded with choices and every choice has its good and bad aspects. Everyone regrets the bad consequences and wishes they could have chosen differently to avoid these consequences, but in avoiding some, you choose others. If you sit in your closet in the dark drinking weak tea, you are going to have regrets about missing the Grand Canyon vacation. If you go on a Grand Canyon vacation, you will regret not bringing a video camera or not riding the burros down the trail to the bottom. You will regret not bringing enough sun screen. You will regret that you left your tea in your closet which was much less uncomfortable than the burro and much warmer than your campground.
Regrets teach you about how you think of yourself and your circumstances. They let you know what you think your boundaries are. Regrets allow you to grow and change and gain wisdom in every activity and circumstance.
By all means, DO SOMETHING YOU MIGHT REGRET! Then learn this mantra, “Well that was interesting…”